25 Things Parents Can Do To Be Good Role Models For Their Teens

Why I wrote this article:

Sometimes when we work with families, the parents tell us that their teens don’t listen to them and would prefer to listen to us as we mentor them through the college application process. Parents often ask us to speak to their child about a particular subject and ask us for suggestions on motivating them. I believe the best way to get your teens to display the behaviors you seek is not just by telling them but also by modeling them yourself.

Parents need to be good role models for their teens because children often model their behavior and attitudes based on what they see in their parents. If parents exhibit positive behaviors and attitudes,  teens are more likely to do the same. 

As parents, you are typically the primary influence in your child’s life, and you can positively shape their values, beliefs, and personality. Good role modeling can also help teens develop essential life skills, such as self-esteem, responsibility, and resilience, which will help them as they grow and navigate through life. Teens with positive role models are more likely to make healthy and positive choices in their own lives and have better outcomes regarding education, employment, and relationships. So what are some specific actions parents can take?

25 things parents can do to be good role models for their teens:

1. Show integrity and honesty in all interactions.
2. Practice good communication skills.
3. Set a good example by living a healthy lifestyle.
4. Show empathy and understanding towards others.
5. Lead by example in terms of work ethic and responsibility.
6. Encourage your teen to pursue their core values, passions, and interests.
7. Be open-minded and willing to listen to different perspectives.
8. Show respect for authority figures and the law.
9. Practice good time management by always arriving on time.
10. Show financial responsibility and teach budgeting skills.
11. Encourage volunteer work and giving back to the community.
12. Demonstrate emotional intelligence and self-awareness.
13. Finish what you start, and enforce clear boundaries and expectations.
14. Show kindness and generosity towards others.
15. Do what you say you will do.
16. Show appreciation and gratitude for others by saying please, thank you, and you’re welcome.
17. Show humility and apologize when you are wrong.
18. Show forgiveness towards others.
19. Show patience and understanding when dealing with difficult situations.
20. Show resilience and a positive attitude in the face of challenges.
21. Show a willingness to learn and grow.
22. Show respect for different cultures and backgrounds.
23. Show a strong sense of self-worth and self-esteem.
24. Show a sense of humor and the ability to laugh at yourself.
25. Show unconditional love and support for your teen.

By applying these actions consistently, your teen is more likely to make healthy and positive choices in their own life and have better outcomes in terms of education, employment, and relationships.